Tuesday, January 11th, 2011
Emily, Robin & Sarah
“I had just had a baby. When I was pregnant, my sister Robin kept saying we should get mammograms, and I was like, okay.
I knew cancer will be sometime in our lives because our mom had breast cancer, but not yet.
In my head, I was thinking, ‘Let it go.’ I had had Greta, my daughter, and Robin called and said there was something she had to tell me. She called and said she had breast cancer, and I said, ‘Oh. I have it too.’
I just instantaneously knew. “
“The best thing about this situation, if there is one, is that everywhere you go, they’re like, ‘There’s a support group. You can join this support group.’
But we already had it.
I didn’t have to ask somebody else about a double mastectomy, because I already had someone who had it, my sister. Robin didn’t have to ask someone what it’s like to have a hysterectomy, because I’d already had it. I think that makes it easier.”
“I tell everyone I know to give their daughter a sister.
You need a sister to get through life.”
Emily Alexander | 37 | Hackettstown, NJ | wife to Brian | mother of Tessa and Greta | event planner
Diagnosis: Breast Cancer November 2005 | Bilateral Mastectomy December 2005 | survivor
“Once I had cancer, and my sister Emily had it too, the doctors said, ‘You might want to test for the gene.’ We were thinking about our other sister, Sarah.
The second time I got cancer, I didn’t say anything to anyone for awhile, except my husband.
It was hard for me to tell anyone it was back.
My sisters and I had all done these things to make sure it wouldn’t come back and then it did. So I felt bad.”
“But, there are a lot of women who didn’t get the chance to have a double mastectomy, or have their ovaries out before it was too late…
So, we’re sitting in a good spot.”
Robin Carter | 36 | Flower Mound, TX | wife to Ryan | mother of Ella and Dylan | homemaker
Diagnosis: DCIS 2005 | Lumpectomy 2005 | Mastectomy 2005 | Invasive Breast Cancer 2009 | Chemotherapy March – June 2009 | Radiation July – August 2009 | survivor
“My oldest was 6 months old when I got tested for the gene. I totally didn’t think I was going to have it. I felt really bad.
I didn’t want to be the only one who didn’t have it.
But then, I had it… So, I had the surgery.”
“I had these two, my sisters, and that’s all I needed.
I’m more emotional; that’s the difference between us. They’ve gone through cancer and I haven’t.
I’m more scared for them than for myself.”
“I’m benefiting from being the youngest, but that sucks for them. And I worry about them more than me.
I don’t want anything to happen.”
Sarah Bentley | 32 | Mequon, WI | wife to Todd | mother of Natalie, Julia and William | merchant
Diagnosis: BRCA positive | Bilateral Mastectomy | fighter